Appreciate Your Kids

In a Korea drama entitled You're Beautiful, there is a scene where a mother stated that she regretted to have given birth his son, "because of your birth I lost the most important thing in my life. Sure you hate him because I left you for him. but because of you, I lost him ... " -You're Beautiful Ep. 8. While Korea's other plays, Love Rain, a mother claimed that her son's birth has been a source of destruction of his household. "If I'm not pregnant of you, this unhappy marriage will never start, " – Love the Rain EP. 9.

We often heard that this negative sentence come out of from mouth of parents towards their children. Because the difficult conditions of parents and the various problems they faced, sometimes they feel stress because of their children and making their situation more difficult.

This Stress sometimes made parents reacting negatively to their sons.

Dear parents, the children also need your appreciation. When you hold your child's face with a negative attitude, then your child will grow up to be someone who is full of negative thoughts in him. This negative impacts can arise in children because of the negative treatment from their parents and in this time team will help you to understand what the impact when the parents face their children with a negative attitude.

Rejection / Rejection from parents

Older people who already feel pressured with existing problems, often we heard curse come out to his son or even more denying their children. When children felt rejected, they will grow up with less confident and he seeking attention from another environment  and with variety of ways: lowering their values, and find a way to become the center of attention, this is just some of little impact of rejection from their parents, even more some of children starting consuming drugs or being drunkard. 

Strict Moral

Many Parents want that their children having a stright and right vision. They do not want their children repeating the same mistakes again and again, this condition sometimes making any parents applying strict moral values. Many cases that parents when saw their children making mistakes either in study or in any fields, directly made some of rules that restrict children's freedom and this is will not make them feels free when they fall down at something. This case will result in children being often feel guilty and sinful when making mistakes.

Disciplinary too Hard

The application of the rules by a parent when parents discipline their child not infrequently leads to harsh attitude of parents on children. This can make the child grow up to be the personal often blame yourself and need a boost of others to complete the task. The child will also grow up with a sense of resentment and anger in his heart.

Applying high Ambition to children

"Parents always want the best for his son" it is a phrase often parents spoken. But not infrequently also the sentence is simply a justification of their ambitions towards their children. Children who grew up with their parents's ambitions will be causing children having idealistic personal which is not realistic. He would often frustrated and feel guilty because of his failure.

Divorce (Broken Home/Divorce)

Parents who decide to quit fighting for their family and take the road of divorce often make the child grow up to be someone who often feel stressed and anxious. He will feel inferior and oscillate between loyalty to the father or mother. In addition, the child will not find a good model that they could see as an example, and it could cause children become brittle.

Being a parent is not an easy task. Many issues may often make you feel stress. But when the Lord has bestowed the gift of a child to you, it means He believes that you can get through it. Value yourself and the children, although often You become stress because of them. Is it not already an instinct of any parents to love their children unconditionally?

Keep up the spirit!